I have written in a while so I guess I should give a quick update on my life. I have finally transferred out of my community college and am now living on campus at a University. While living in a dorm hall with nineteen other girls, you begin to hear a lot about boys. It's a topic that naturally comes up at least once a day. Also, here at my school there's a little motto called "Ring by Spring." Meaning that most the girls who come here plan to find their soul mate and get married by the spring semester.
Along with hearing about waiting for Prince Charming, you also hear dating horror stories, cheesy love stories, and crush of the week. Hearing all these stories has led me to a few different conclusions. 1.) I definitely don't want a ring by spring. 2) I definitely don't want to date just to date. 3.) I don't want to pursue a guy.
Let me clear that up. No, I am not switching to girls. I mean that I'm done being the pursuer. In all the happily ever after stories I've heard, the girl never tried to pursue or push anything to happen. She didn't play hard to get either, she just didn't think much about it. That may sound like she's making the guy do all the work, but it's not exactly like that.
I noticed that guys like the chase. In fact, they love it. So why not let them chase for once? In the past I've always pursued in some way or another. This time I just want to stop. I want to try this new technique out. I feel that if a guy likes me enough to pursue me, then he's a keeper.
How will I go about this? By doing absolutely nothing. I don't feel that I need a boyfriend right now. Sure, having one would be awesome, but it's not a big deal. I'd rather focus on school and my friends and just enjoy life and let the rest of the pieces fall into place. As cheesy as it may sound I do believe that God has a guy picked out for me. I know some of you might not believe in God and think that I'm crazy, naive and stupid, but I like to trust my gut feelings and my gut feeling is telling me this. I know that He has someone awesome planned out for me so why worry so much about it now? Why not enjoy my friends and try my best in school and not worry about boys? When I'm meant to meet my Prince Charming I will. No worries. I have trust.
I know that I may sound over optimistic, but I find that this is a way better way to live life. I've been pessimistic about guys ever since I was a freshman in high school so why not try something new? I can't explain the feeling that I have, but it's there. I just know that things will fall into place. I just need to be a little more patient and for the first time in my life I'm okay with that.
