Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder

I'm sure that everyone reading this has wanted to be perfect at some point in their lives. Who doesn't? The media gives us this idea that in order to have a good life and to be happy you need to constantly change yourself to become this image of "perfect." For women, it's weighing close to nothing, blonde (or just exotic looking), perfect hair, smooth face, and basically looking like all the female celebrities that are given the chance to grace the covers of your favorite magazines.

I'm not saying that wanting to look nice is bad because it's not. You should want to take care of your body to be healthy and also looking nice makes you feel better. My point here is that some people take this idea of perfection too far by getting plastic surgery or self harming themselves. There are certain features about ourselves that are easy to change but there are other parts that aren't changeable. If you don't feel like you look good blonde then you can dye your hair and become a brunette or a red head. If you don't like your body then you can exercise or eat better. However, there are features like your face and eyes that aren't so easy to alter. Your face will always be your face no matter what unless you're rich enough to completely alter it, which most people aren't. It seems almost cruel that when you're born you'll either have a pretty face, an ugly face, or an average face without your consent. At first it's okay, because you haven't realized yet that certain faces are seen as beautiful while others, not so much. When you do figure out what you were given that's when the problems start. If you have a pretty face then congratulations, honestly. For the rest of us well this is where we try to either fix the problem with low results, not care and be happy, or punish yourself for it.

The problem with the media's idea of beauty is that everyone has a different idea of what beauty is. To your best friend this guy might be the hottest thing she's ever seen, but to you he might be nothing special. So is he attractive or not? That's the thing, he's both. Some people blindly follow magazines and TV and take their idea of beauty instead of forming their own. To the people who created the magazines, that was their idea of beauty. Think of Robert Pattinson. Many girls find him attractive and the people who hired him obviously thought so too since Edward was described as hot in the book. Personally, I don't find him attractive at all, but that's because he doesn't fit into my idea of attractiveness.

The problem is that most people don't understand that (or at least, it seems that way.) They believe that if they don't fit the idea of beauty that is given out then they're ugly. Or if they don't fit the idea of beauty to a crush then they think they're ugly, which isn't true. To be honest, I don't think anyone is "ugly" because they have to fit someone's idea of attractiveness. They might not fit a majority or might only fit one person but that's still someone who finds them attractive. Which means that the whole idea of perfection given out to us doesn't mean anything because it's their idea and not yours.

Which is why I believe everyone is somewhat attractive in their own way. Of course I have my own idea of what I find attractive in a guy but that varies from my friend's ideas. Which honestly, I think is awesome. It truly proves that there is someone out there everyone, which I find amazing.