I know that whenever I'd get a crush on a boy I'd start to fall into this chase. The guy would do absolutely nothing but stand there looking cute and acting cool and I'd be here, this stupid teenage girl, trying so hard to get his attention and then try to win him over. In the end, it never worked because the guy never bothered to chase back. I might watch too much TV but I've noticed that the chasing that goes on there is always the guy doing sweet things to impress a girl and it always works. What bugs me is that they never show a chase from the girl's perspective because it can be just as time consuming for us too if the guy doesn't notice or care. The other day in my biology class we were talking about mating rituals between animals and my teacher was telling us about these birds where basically the males line up and the female simply chooses one of them. Of course, each male is like going crazy and doing a bunch of "look at me! look at me!" type of things. It just made me laugh that an animal's natural instinct is to chase and woo the one they like. What made me laugh even more was a guy's comment to this ritual. He first asked the teacher if these would end up being related to humans and she said "yes." Then he said, "so it's like real life where we guys have to wait and be chosen by all the girls." How terribly wrong he is, because girls have to chase as well and hope the guy we've fallen for will choose us.
Either way there always seems to be this one sided chase where the person who's fallen is trying to make the other fall as well but either their time and effort will be rewarded or they'll just end up getting their heart broken. So if chasing is almost like a natural instinct, then is it ever worth it? Should we just keep doing it because one day it'll pay off and we can be happy with that person or is it just a waste of time that should be avoided all together?
I actually like the idea of a chase. It gives the person a chance to show how much they care for the other person and to show how important they are to them. Although, I don't think it's worth it unless both sides are chasing after each other. If you're going after someone who just does not see you that way, then maybe you should rethink it. I think everyone deserves someone who's willing to go through a lot for them. If someone does not give you the time of day then find someone else because more than likely if you do win that person over eventually, it probably won't work out because their heart was never in it from the beginning and you probably just exhausted them to the point where they gave in. The same works for the other way around. If someone keeps chasing after you and you just can't return their feelings then don't date them just because you find it flattering. If you don't feel the same way then that means it's not meant to be and you shouldn't lead that person on.
I'm a terrible chaser, because I get so incredibly shy around guys I have feelings for and I don't want to embarrass myself. Although, when I say chase in this blog I don't mean just trying to get the person to notice you but rather trying to impress them. If you're impressing them, then I don't think the chase ever ends because if you really love that person then you'll always want to impress them even if you're old and married. It's not because you want to win their heart, it's because you want to show them you care. In that case I would keep chasing, and I'd hope they'd be chasing after me too even if they've already won my heart.
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