I Don't Wanna to be You

Ok, so we all know how people get when they like someone. They start changing these little things about them to fit that person's image of the "ideal" girlfriend or boyfriend which is incredibly stupid.

Of course, I can't say I haven't done this. In fact I've done this a lot but I never catch myself doing it until it's all said and done and I've seen friends and other people do it too. You obviously want the person to like you so you start pretending that you like certain movies. You lie and say you love his favorite band too even though you really hate it and you won't be caught dead with them on your iPod. You say you love football and sit down to watch the game even though you're going crazy inside because you'd rather be home watching the Office.

This is why I don't think you should jump into a relationship with someone you've just met. At least take the time to live in the friend zone, I mean I know that's the last place you want to be but it can help. If you're just friends then you don't care as much if he knows you watch Glee and that you hate his favorite sports team because it doesn't matter. That way when and if you do date each other he'll already know that and it'll prove that he likes you just the way you are and not the "fake" you that you've created in order to gain his attention. When people first meet and instantly want to date then they're scared because you don't know if they'll change their mind about you. You just know that you don't want that to happen and the only way to ensure that is to make sure you agree on everything and have the exact same interests which is stupid. First of all, it doesn't matter if you don't agree on everything. Everyone is different so you're going to disagree on a few things, that's normal. It'd be boring if you were dating a clone of yourself. I mean obviously you need some things in common but if you disagree on a movie it's not a big deal.

Second of all, the real you will come out eventually. You can't hide your personality because that's who you are. I mean sure you can hide it for a little bit but it will come out eventually. Finally, you need someone who likes you exactly the way you are, flaws and all. Besides when you just keep true to yourself you'll attract the person that's right for you. If they don't like you because of separate interests then don't get upset because they obviously weren't meant for you. When someone knows all of the weird things you like, your flaws, and appreciates all of your good qualities and still likes you, then you'll know it's good and you won't have to pretend you're someone else.